The word for the week is: Misrepresentation. Misrepresentation: to give an inaccurate or deliberately false account of the nature of somebody or something.
So, as many of you know my out-look on men right now is crap. It seems like everywhere I turn all the men I find are liars. What's up with that? I've had enough misrepresentation shoved down my throat to make anyone sick! Are there any honest guys out there? I'm starting to doubt it. Here, let me list a few examples:
Liar #1: We go out for a few months. He's one of the sweetest, kindest guys I've ever met. We decide to get married, we say the "I dos", and suddenly he's not the same person anymore. He suddenly has enough anger for several people, instead of spending time with me like he used to he's glued to the computer, I find out that he's addicted to porn, he never takes me out anymore, suddenly he's insanely jealous, he tells me he thinks his co-workers are trying to poison him, and I'm trying to figure out what is going on with this guy. Come to find out that the man is a paranoid schizophrenic. Something he hid from me very well while we were dating. That relationship ended but not fast enough.
Liar #2: We decide to make the arrangement of
"friends with benefits." (I'm not proud of it now but it happened.) We agreed that there should be no emotion coming into play with this relationship. Next thing I know he throws out the dreaded "L" word (love) and turns everything upside down. I get suckered into it and think we're on our way to a committed relationship. Then what happens only 2 weeks later? "I don't think I'm in love with you after all." Then why did you tell me you loved me if you didn't? Now, his chances are all dried up with me and he's regretting it.Liar #3: We meet and start hanging out. He hits on me heavily! I'm fresh out of high school, young, dumb, not seeing the signs. I start getting really excited that someone is interested in me and start texting him and talking to him on the phone to get to know him better. The flirting continues. We go out and he drops the bomb that he's actually married and would still be interested in going out. When I left he was wearing my drink. I realized, I never saw a ring. He's taking it off when he goes out so he can pick up on other girls! What a dog!
See why I'm loosing faith? I think it's pretty obvious!
6 comments:
Yeeouch. That just sucks.
I hate to be a man basher, but men are just wired differently. They definately have different motivations that women do. And that's ok but sometimes their motivations (not all men or should I say boys) are too self serving.
Hang in there.
Vicki
Not that I'm defending men, because there's so real losers out there, but women lie a lot too. It goes both ways. That's I hated the whole dating thing because it just seemed like one big ongoing lie all the time. I think that's why things worked out so well for Joe and I, we knew each other for a year and a half before dating. We knew each others secrets, how each other acted in a bad mood, etc. SO there was no need for pretenses.
I'm sorry you've met so many dishonest men. I wish I had advice for you.
You're right Lisa, women lie too. I guess I won't swing that way and hope for something better. I'll just stay in familiar territory. ;)
Good comments Lisa. My husband was my friend for a while before we dated and he told me I was the first girl where he felt natural around and could just be himself.
And Britt, ewww. But I know you were just kidding.
Vicki
LOL! Of course I was! Actually, it makes me hope Steven and I can work things out. Steven and I have been friend for YEARS and we're pretty natural together. Plus, Steven is the only guy I've been with that I can say I'm 100% sure he wouldn't step out on me. That's pretty big. (Sigh) I really hope it works out.
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